Among the questions that I received through my email, there is one that continues to arise...

"What is the most important skill to develop in pickup?"

I believe the very nature of this question is problematic. It somehow implies that there is a quick solution to our dating problems and that is simply not the case.

If there is one thing I've discovered in my trainings, it is this: Powerful pickup techniques can certainly help a client, but not NEARLY as much as identifying and eliminating previously existing bad habits.

Most of the time the client is not aware of these habits, and it requires some real work on my part just to convince them that they exist in the first place.

This is one of the things that I believe is not right in most of the dating tips for guys or pickup training out there...It teaches a methodology or system without taking into account the individual hangups that the client most certainly has.

The unique training I've developed with Dr. Robert Epstein (one of the most respected psychologists in the world) not only presents a comprehensive pickup system to master, but the exercises are individually tailored to each client.

I don't want to get too sale-sy, but I want you to know that I am actually making a point here:

The most important pickup skill you can develop is to become more aware of your own bad habits...and come up with effective solutions to help get rid of them.

In other words, you can master every damn dating tips for men and pickup technique that you want... but if every time you open you mouth, flecks of saliva spray her in the face... you've pretty much failed no matter what.

One could argue that there are many other techniques and dating advice that are 'the most important.'

For example, we are very big on relaxation here... It is essential to give every client some techniques on how to minimize stress when faced in a tough situation.

But there is one other skill that I feel deserves mention...In fact, this is the skill that in my not-so-humble opinion separates the men from the boys in the dating game:

The ability to cope with resistance.

Lets face it, most of us have had an easy lay at one point or another. Hopefully you know what I'm talking about...It was just ON...You liked her, she liked you, you were horny, so was she... Escalation to sex was as smooth as butter.

This kind of lay doesn't impress me at all.

Not that I turn it down when it happens, of course;)

What impresses me is how a client performs in the face of real resistance. In other words, she is blocking your attempts to push the relationship forward. Most of the times, this resistance is due a mistake you could have made.

And we all make mistakes, so get used to it.

The best seductions I've ever done were always the ones where I made a critical error...and was able to recover.

So the next time you screw up on an approach or a date, remember that it is actually an incredible opportunity to see if you can bounce back...